“Time for Change”
As Fall approaches, we are reminded that it is about a time for renewal and change. Sometimes we can get so stuck in old behaviors that we forget that we have choices. Change is never easy. It requires a desire to want things in your life to be different or better. So, where do you begin you may ask.
First you need to identify what it is that you are unhappy about in your life or what you would like to improve in yourself or your life. Most people will have a list which may be too much to change. So, prioritizing your list is essential. Pick the top three things on your list which are what I call “MUST” the things that you have been talking about forever and just can’t seem to find the time or the desire to do.
Then once you have made that decision write down the specific goal and steps on how you will achieve this desired change. For instance, I want to be more patient and tolerant of others. My goal would be to learn acceptance of others’ behaviors and thought processes. The specific steps I would take would be 1.) look at the source (specific person) identify what it is about them that creates these feelings 2.) identify is there anything that I can do personally to improve the relationship 3.) identify specific steps I can take to reduce stress created by my lack of tolerance and patience. And so on….
I tend to be extremely specific in my step process I think because I am a therapist and have a tendency to analyze plus I am a big advocate for goal setting and the more options you have to work on a particular issue the better the outcome. Having choices about how we want to change is powerful. I feel so much better about myself when I am working on myself. I am not perfect by any means. Life still happens despite how much we know about how to take care of ourselves. We are still impacted by others as our life evolves and we get older.
There is risk in everything that we do and CHANGE requires us to take a risk. Life has so much to offer us if we would just get out of our own way. Life is challenging at times we may be thrown more curve balls then we would like however it is all in how we catch them that will create the change we desire. Are we truly invested in ourselves? Have we truly committed to ourselves? Do we have one foot in and one foot out? Are we still sitting on the fence?
So, depending upon where we are at will determine if we catch that curve ball and make the necessary changes in our life to support the change and happiness we desire or we drop that curve ball and stand up and say, “Whoops I made a mistake!! Next time I will catch that ball!!’’
My belief is, “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”