The New You for 2014 Part II
In last month’s article I talked about setting goals for the new year and the importance of keeping them simple and realistic for us. Sometimes this can be a difficult task because some if not most of us want it NOW!!! We want instantaneous results and the ability to follow through with what we have committed ourselves to do. Depending upon what goal we have defined for us it may happen but if it is a lifestyle change, we need to give ourselves permission to take our time and establish routines for a couple of months. Once we are in the swing of things than the natural flow we happen for us. The ability to follow through with what we set our minds to do will happen. It will become almost automatic in the beginning and middle stages. The problems arise when we are feeling frustrated with our progress, or with interruptions from daily life that may be impeding us to fulfill our goals to the degree of our original intention.
That is why it is so important to have a back up plan when life and feelings and old behaviors creep into us achieving our goals. In life coaching we call these “blocks”. Blocks can keep us stuck for one hour, one day, one week, one month or one year depending upon what it is. Some of them are normal to have when you think about the fact that we are changing some aspect of ourselves or some behavior in our life which requires a lifestyle change. Changing our lifestyle is a long term commitment; however it does not need to create crisis and drama for us. Part of identifying the blocks is to understand if there are patterns in how we do things or if there are underlying messages that we have told ourselves for years that sabotage us in achieving our goals. Most of us have an idea what is our negative thought that has haunted us for years, that reals it ugly head when we are finally feeling motivated to change. So you replace it with a positive affirmation. For example if you do not feel that you can change that it is hopeless that you always fail no matter what, than your statement would be “I am capable of changing.” “I have been successful” (identify with what specifically, i.e.: children, work).
I really like the idea of improving my life and how I interact with others in my life on all levels. I am always striving to be the best person I can be because it is important to me. I want to be as happy as humanly possible. So for me being willing to look inside myself and say “What do I want for myself? Is my life working for me? What do I need to do to have whatever it is that I am seeking for myself? Means I value myself and that is how I pursue my goals.” I am usually empowered by identifying goals and reviewing them. Because no matter what whether I have achieved only some I have achieved and believed in myself that Change is possible and it is Good. The reality is there is always tomorrow or next month or next year to fine tune and master what it is that I am seeking to fulfill in myself and my life.