“Acceptance is the answer to all of my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation –some fact of my life Unacceptable to me. And I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, Absolutely Nothing happens in God’s world by mistake. Until I accept life completely on life’s term, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and my attitudes.” Page 417 in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous*.
This prayer has helped me in many ways to not create a crisis and to accept the situation as it is for that moment. Even if you do not believe in God you can take it out and it will still make sense and give you a sense of calm. You may have to say it a few times if you are really upset and confused but it will help you gain a new perspective on your life and your current situation.
Sometimes when life seems chaotic and unforgiving, gratitude can quickly get your life back in perspective. Being grateful for the things that you do have, your friends, your spouse, your job, your sense of humor, your kindness, your home, your car, your health, your spirituality, your passion, your patience, your ability to love, your personality, your honesty, your integrity, your smile, your intelligence, your courage, your confidence and on and on……. Being grateful is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself when life seems overwhelming and unfair. Practice gratitude every day if you can to keep yourself feeling balanced.