There are No Coincidences


There are No Coincidences

Posted by Susan V. Brewer in Balance, Codependency, Coping Skills, Feelings, Relationships, Self-Care, Spirituality 25 Aug 2016

I read a daily affirmation by Mike Dooley called TUT which means thoughts become things. The other day the quote was, “It is impossible to be afraid when you dwell in truth…” It was exactly what I needed to hear. When we know the truth about what is going on than we do not need to be afraid of what the outcome might be or how we need to deal with whatever is going on in our lives. I have said this many times in my writings that I do not believe in coincidences when it comes to things in our life that we may be working on. I believe in most cases that everything happens for a reason. There are times when everything aligns up just the way it is supposed to. People show up in your life, signs all of a sudden appear that are exactly what you need to read, that phone call you have been waiting for…..
Even when things appear to be a coincidence I believe that there is some other message or reason that it is happening that has nothing to do with the situation. I am not sure if that made sense or not… You know the saying about being in the wrong place at the right time, it is like that… Unfortunately, not all of us want to see these as signs or messages in our life. Because that would mean we might have to take a look at something in our life that may be uncomfortable for us. Facing our fears is never easy, however when we truly know the truth about how we feel and the specific situation than we are more willing and able to address the problem.
Most of my clients recognize that things are happening in their life and they do not always know why. When we start talking about what is happening in their daily life and when a specific event shows up in their life, in most cases we are able to figure out the WHY. The reality is most of us know but I know for me sometimes when I am talking about it out loud with a close friend of mine, I am usually able to put it together relatively quickly unless there could be more than one meaning behind the coincidence. In some cases, there might be, because sometimes the lesson let’s say might not be for us it might be for other the person involved in our coincidence. I hope this makes sense.
So in the beginning I mentioned TUT because of how powerful I believe his affirmations are and how often they apply to my life or one of my client’s life situations. When you think about it in some circumstances we can create what is going to happen in our life. If we are positive and trusting depending upon the situation the outcome will be rewarding. I know from personal experience that when I am shifting my thoughts in a more positive and balanced way what I am looking for usually happens. This does not mean that I can necessarily control the outcome of a specific situation but if my focus is always on its improvement and resolution than it has a greater chance of becoming reality. I can’t make a drug addict stop being a drug addict however, I can create a safe environment that provides support and encouragement to change addictive thinking.
Ultimately we are only responsible for ourselves not others; however, we can lead some to have what we have and want when they are ready. As long as we trust in ourselves and are not afraid to be more and better… than what we want will eventually happen or we will just let go of the things we cannot control because they are bigger than us and our thoughts. Remember it takes two to tango!!

Susan V. Brewer

Susan V. Brewer is a Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist in the Upper Bucks County Area.  She graduated in 1987 from Kutztown University with a BS in Criminal Justice and Sociology. She became a Certified Life & Career Coach in June of 2006 and a Certified Relationship Coach in December of 2016. She specializes in adoption, codependency, relationship issues, substance abuse, self-esteem and life transitions. Her belief is “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

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