Posted by Susan V. Brewer in Balance, Codependency, Coping Skills, Counseling, Fear, Feelings, Goal-Setting, Gratitude, Relationships, Self-Care 20 Mar 2018

Frustration seems to be the one word that has been on my brain and on the minds of many people I have been in contact with this past month. It seems as though time is moving way to quick for some of us and this is creating an imbalance in our thinking and behaving. Because some of us have had certain goals and expectations for ourselves this year or in our lifetime and we haven’t been able to get ourselves unstuck and follow through with them. Hence the word frustration.
Frustration can be viewed as the obvious of being “negative”, but it doesn’t necessarily have to be that way. The word frustration is defined as “deep, chronic sense of insecurity and a dissatisfaction arising from unresolved problems or unfulfilled needs”. So, this can actually be a positive motivator to achieve our goals because this really is not a comfortable feeling at all. Mostly I believe because we feel so out of control with this feeling and when it overcomes us it can be very difficult to keep it in check and not respond or react in a very negative towards ourselves or others who may get in our way or just happen to be there.
Even if you are frustrated about where you are at in your life, you can acknowledge this feeling and make a statement like: I am frustrated with myself for not losing the weight I wanted to by now this year. I am willing to forgive myself and start a new thought and a new feeling of “possibility” That it is possible for me to change and that feeling frustrated will not get me there any quicker. So, I choose the opposite of frustration which is……. Encouragement.
So, the key is to recognize when you first start to feel this feeling of frustration and ask yourself why if it isn’t obvious and then make a plan of how to deal with it. Frustration requires us to utilize the word encouragement. We need to encourage ourselves to feel more secure with ourselves and our lives. We need to encourage ourselves to find a way to resolve our problems and get our needs met. This is why the feeling of being frustrated can be a positive influence for us to move beyond our self-limiting beliefs and create the life we want.
Sometimes we can get used to saying “I am so frustrated about this situation I don’t know what to do?” However, in most cases we do know what to do but we may not want to do it. So, the question becomes do we want to change the things that are causing our frustrations? Some things we may be able to change and others we may not. We may have to change how we see a particular situation through different eyes so that we can regain a new perspective and feel less frustrated and more positive about the outcome. We have to be willing to look at Are we creating this frustration in our life and if so we need to find a way to change that so that we feel more positive and hopeful about it.
So, feel encouraged to do your best today and let that be enough for today for tomorrow will be here soon enough. It is ultimately our choice in how we choose to feel on a daily basis. Choose Encouragement!!

Susan V. Brewer

Susan V. Brewer is a Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist in the Upper Bucks County Area.  She graduated in 1987 from Kutztown University with a BS in Criminal Justice and Sociology. She became a Certified Life & Career Coach in June of 2006 and a Certified Relationship Coach in December of 2016. She specializes in adoption, codependency, relationship issues, substance abuse, self-esteem and life transitions. Her belief is “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

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