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Posted by Susan V. Brewer in Balance, Coping Skills, Fear, Feelings, Gratitude, Relationships, Self-Care, Spirituality 20 Oct 2017

Since Thanksgiving is coming up I am thinking the topic should be about gratitude. I often talk about gratitude and the importance of being grateful for the things that we have both physically, mentally and spiritually. Sometimes life can be hard and for some people they have a lot of stuff on their plate that the concept of being grateful seems so impossible. I can empathize with my clients and others when they feel that they can’t seem to catch a break that things keep happening whether or not they are directedly involved in it. So, the desire to be grateful is there but the energy to be grateful can seem impossible.
I truly believe that all of us have lessons to learn with the negative and positive in our life. Sometimes we cannot always see how a negative situation can be helpful for us. Well it all depends on what the situation is and how we look at in our life. For instance, a friend of mine is dying of cancer and while this is so sad and doesn’t make sense to me, my interaction and time with her has been quite beautiful and I couldn’t be anymore grateful than I am to have her in my life and to be sharing this experience with her. Despite the sadness I feel that we have been apart from each other for so long the reconnection with her has been inspiring and creating balance in my life.
She and I were able to pick up where we left off years ago and laugh and talk as if time had not passed by. We were so connected spiritually it was unbelievable. We couldn’t believe how we were so insync with one another and that our belief systems were so similar despite the different lives we had been living. I saw her again recently and she was in the hospital. We spent the whole day together talking and sharing about our lives even though she has cancer and was not doing well. All I could think of while there with her was how blessed I was to be in her presence and sharing this experience with her.

I wound up sending her a text the following day sharing how much I loved her and how grateful I was that she and I were back in each other’s lives even if for a short while. I got a text from her the same time I sent mine that said the same thing. Gratitude is so healing even in the midst of sadness. I mean do I wish we hadn’t lost so much time of course, but where we are now is where we are supposed to be and for that I am truly grateful that I understand that. The universe works in strange ways sometimes. I am going to learn and am learning so much from this experience. Seeing her and being with her was a validation for me of how I live my life and how I want to continue living my life. I just hope that I will have as much grace and acceptance as she does with dying. I will because she and I are alike on so many levels which is why I have so much gratitude this year!!

Susan V. Brewer

Susan V. Brewer is a Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist in the Upper Bucks County Area.  She graduated in 1987 from Kutztown University with a BS in Criminal Justice and Sociology. She became a Certified Life & Career Coach in June of 2006 and a Certified Relationship Coach in December of 2016. She specializes in adoption, codependency, relationship issues, substance abuse, self-esteem and life transitions. Her belief is “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

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