“Happy 2020!!”

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“Happy 2020!!”

Posted by Susan V. Brewer in Balance 25 Jan 2020

I love the sound of 2020!!! It doesn’t seem possible that it will be 2020. Seriously I remember when it was the year 2000 and all the hype that happened then. It doesn’t seem real that that was 20 years ago. So, with this very cool number (I have a thing about numbers so this is very cool to me), maybe this year will bring double the happiness I believe most of us are seeking in our lives.
Most people I talk to look forward to starting a new year. They feel as though they could all the past things that have happened that they didn’t like or didn’t work for them and get to start over. Like a “do over!!” Who doesn’t like a do over??? I love the idea of it.
A fresh start. An opportunity for renewal and forgiveness. A new venture of self-discovery. A renewed outlook on your life. An awareness of new possibilities. A longing to reconnect. A new found belief of change. A desire to explore what has been missing in your life. An understanding that setting goals will help us achieve whatever it is that we are seeking in our lives.
Some people do not like to set goals; however, I truly believe it gets you grounded for the new year, even if it just for 30 days. Sometimes it is very important to create a “shift” in our life in regards to our thinking and eventually our attitude and behavior.
What I mean by this is the actual thought that you want to change some things in your life creates an awareness in your day to day activities. You will become more mindful about what you are doing and will ask yourself, “is this in align with what I want for myself and my life this year?” You may choose in that moment to change an old behavior and incorporate a new one in its place. Or you may choose to say, “Not Today!!” which is still okay in the scheme of things.
Making long term changes takes a deep, deep commitment, almost like it has been a longing desire ,”that THIS has to change in my life I can not continue to do this attitude or behavior because I just don’t like it anymore it is causing me more pain and grief than I want to deal with anymore.” And BAM you start to move towards this CHANGE you have wanted for such a long time.
Making short term changes can be more manageable and puts less pressure on you to have to change a possible lifestyle. If you have several things that you want to work on and they are all kind of big, my suggestion is to write them down and not in any specific order. Then choose the top three by looking at the list and saying, “Is this more important than this one? And so on?” Keep comparing each one until you become clear about these are the top three for me.
You will probably surprise yourself about which three become the top ones and actually feel better that okay I can handle this right now. Sometimes the really big ones need to wait until you can conquer the smaller ones. When you accomplish these then maybe in six months you can revisit this list and say okay, I will choose one of the big ones and begin that process.
My wish for all of you this year is that you will be kind to yourself, that you will love or like yourself a little more, that you will be true to yourself, that you will ask for help, that you will smile and love more, that you will find time just for you and above all that you cherish every moment and every day and say, “I am grateful to be alive! I am truly blessed!’’
My belief is, “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

Susan V. Brewer

Susan V. Brewer is a Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist in the Upper Bucks County Area.  She graduated in 1987 from Kutztown University with a BS in Criminal Justice and Sociology. She became a Certified Life & Career Coach in June of 2006 and a Certified Relationship Coach in December of 2016. She specializes in adoption, codependency, relationship issues, substance abuse, self-esteem and life transitions. Her belief is “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

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