Happy Holidays!!


Happy Holidays!!

Posted by Susan V. Brewer in Balance, Codependency, Coping Skills, Family Issues, Feelings, Gratitude 20 Dec 2016

This is the time of year right after Thanksgiving when our stress levels can rise and we can start to feel overwhelmed by the prospect of Christmas and what that means to us, to our friends, family and coworkers. Sometimes it feels as though we are being pulled into so many different directions that we just don’t know what to do and may create a crisis for ourselves. The key is to plan, delegate and prioritize what is important to you and with your relationships with others. What is the meaning of Christmas to you? Is it all about the presents? Is it searching for those special gifts? Is it the gift wrapping and writing out cards? Is it the time you spend with your family and friends that you may not have seen all year? Is it preparing and sharing that special meal? Is it remembering those who are less fortunate than us that may need our help? Is it about being one up on everyone else and having to have the perfect gifts? Are we looking for recognition and acceptance from others? Whatever Christmas means to you is going to determine how well you will be able to enjoy the holidays.
We all have lists that we make about whom we are getting gifts for and what we think they may want. Some of us have an idea of how much money we want to spend on each person on our list. So, if you start out by asking yourself What does Christmas mean to me and depending upon who is on your list what it means to them. You will be able to systematically prioritize the time and energy it will take for your Christmas to be successful. The problem some of us run in to is that we are so focused on making sure that we please others that we may overspend and may even become resentful about the whole gift giving. That is why it is so important to be clear about the meaning for you and give love and gifts unconditionally because it is what is important to you. This is not always easy because those of us who worry will wonder if what we have given is enough.

It can be difficult but also empowering to stand in your own light and share your truth with others because what do you have to lose. Those who love you and do not care about the gifts are going to be so grateful to be celebrating the holidays with you!! The holidays are supposed to be about enjoying and sharing with one another and if gifts are involved great!! It is beneficial for us to evaluate what we truly value in our relationships with others at this time of year. I am not saying to not buy Christmas gifts but be mindful of how you spend your money and ask yourself why you are giving what you are and that you can afford to be as generous as you want to be because you can; not because you feel you should and are worried about what others are going to think of you. May you be enriched by all those you love so dear and “Enjoy the holidays!!”

Susan V. Brewer

Susan V. Brewer is a Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist in the Upper Bucks County Area.  She graduated in 1987 from Kutztown University with a BS in Criminal Justice and Sociology. She became a Certified Life & Career Coach in June of 2006 and a Certified Relationship Coach in December of 2016. She specializes in adoption, codependency, relationship issues, substance abuse, self-esteem and life transitions. Her belief is “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

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