Happy Holidays!!

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Happy Holidays!!

Posted by Susan V. Brewer in Family Issues, Feelings, Goal-Setting, Gratitude, Recovery, Relationships, Self-Care, Spirituality 25 Nov 2018

Can you believe it has been another year and Christmas is here already? I am always amazed at how quickly time goes by and the holidays are here for us again. I feel like it was just the start of the school year. So here comes the hustle and bustle of the holidays and time to buy gifts for those we love and hopefully for those who are less fortunate. This time of year is a good time to remember those who have less than us, who may be poor and struggling due to their life circumstances, when a helping hand, some food, donation and gifts would make their holiday seem like it all makes sense. Sometimes we can forget that little things can make such a huge difference in their and our lives. Giving to others can be rewarding and healing; it is a way of connecting without having to have any expectations. I think all of us at times are guilty about our gift giving and how we have expectations about how others will be thankful and grateful for the time, thought and energy we put into the gift or gifts that we purchased for them. It can be hard to give without expecting or wanting anything in return.

So it is important for us to keep ourselves grounded and focused on the meaning and the task at hand. What I mean by the “meaning” is what is our intention in buying gifts for others. Sometimes there is a greater purpose and symbolism in what we get for certain people. We may put more thought and preparation in finding the perfect gift because we want that person to know how much they mean to us. Other times I think that we can over think and put way too much pressure on ourselves to have the best of the best in our gift giving. It can be hard to stay on task because we want perfection instead of staying focused on the meaning behind our gift giving. Give from the heart not necessarily from the pocket. When we really know our friends and family and trust who we are and what we have to offer going Christmas shopping can be lots of fun. I would encourage you to have fun even if that means bargain shopping if you truly enjoy it. If you do not I don’t know if it is a good idea for you to be out and about in the midst of all that chaos. I have found that most people only become more irritated and Scrooge-like when they are out at the local stores when they don’t want to be or really don’t like the drama associated with Christmas shopping.

So remember to give and love without conditions. Be as pure in spirit as you can be. Greet others with a smile when you are standing in a long line. Sing along to the Christmas songs. Throw some extra change in the local missions’ envelopes. Treat someone less fortunate to a hot meal. Buy a coffee for the next person behind you. Step outside of yourself and see all the good that there truly is in the world. And by all means, “Enjoy the Holidays!!”

Susan V. Brewer

Susan V. Brewer is a Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist in the Upper Bucks County Area.  She graduated in 1987 from Kutztown University with a BS in Criminal Justice and Sociology. She became a Certified Life & Career Coach in June of 2006 and a Certified Relationship Coach in December of 2016. She specializes in adoption, codependency, relationship issues, substance abuse, self-esteem and life transitions. Her belief is “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

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