“Is this Enough?”

“Is this Enough?”

Posted by Susan V. Brewer in Balance, Codependency, Coping Skills, Feelings, Goal-Setting, Relationships, Self-Care 25 Mar 2015

I believe there are times in our life when we question where we are at in our lives when it comes to our personal, social and family relationships, our career and home life. We will invariably compare ourselves to our family and friends as well as society in general and go “Am I earning enough money?” “Do I have enough friends?” “Is my house comparable to what my neighbor has?” “Am I thin and smart enough?” Sometimes these can be daunting thoughts because we often feel that what we have or who we are is not enough compared to what others have and how we see them. We often feel that we need to have more or do more because society implies to be happy means having it all at whatever the expense. However, this I do not believe is true. Being or having enough follows the concept of self-care and being true to who we are and knowing the truth about who we are is what sets you free from the rest and ultimately becomes ENOUGH.
The reality is we need to define what makes us happy in our current environment and when we look around at what we have and who we have in our lives “Are we happy? Do I/we have enough?” Most people will say “Yes! Life is good!!” They may want to tweak some things with home improvements or possibly a new car or spending more time with family and friends but overall they are content and satisfied with their lives. For some though they may need to make changes in their life that will improve the overall quality of their lives. They may need to work harder than the rest of us depending upon what is important for them in their lives without comparing themselves to others. All of us have different ideas about how we want to live our lives and how we live our lives. So define what that is for you and believe that no matter what, “It is Enough”.
One of the most important gifts we can give ourselves is to love ourselves unconditionally. How do you do that? By honoring your wants and needs and being true to you. Set limits for yourself in how you want others to treat you. Be respectful of your friends, family and partner and treat them as you would like to be treated. Have fun and find hobbies and interests that speak to who you are as a person. Enjoy each day and be grateful for the things and people that you have in your life. Get enough rest as well as enough fun. Challenge yourself and take risks. Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself. Be honest as much as possible. Speak your truth. Stand up for what you believe in. Ask for help when you need it. Do what makes you happy and you will always feel and have ENOUGH!!!

Susan V. Brewer

Susan V. Brewer is a Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist in the Upper Bucks County Area.  She graduated in 1987 from Kutztown University with a BS in Criminal Justice and Sociology. She became a Certified Life & Career Coach in June of 2006 and a Certified Relationship Coach in December of 2016. She specializes in adoption, codependency, relationship issues, substance abuse, self-esteem and life transitions. Her belief is “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

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