“Is this the Year?”


“Is this the Year?”

Posted by Susan V. Brewer in Alcohol and Drugs, Balance, Codependency, Coping Skills, Counseling, Family Issues, Feelings, Goal-Setting, Recovery, Relationships, Self-Care 20 Jan 2017

So is this the year that you tackle those big changes you want in your life?? Quit smoking? Lose weight? Financial Responsibility? Get a new job? These are just a few of the top goals most people have wanted to work on for years. Some have been successful and others are here again.. Saying what am I doing wrong? Why haven’t I made this commitment in my life? As much as we would like it to be simple it is not always that simple or all of us would have achieved these goals that we have set for ourselves.
The truth of the matter is we can want it all we want but sometimes we need something outside of ourselves to motivate us to change. For example, if you were getting married and you wanted to look more “phenomenal” than you probably already look you would have a huge incentive to go on a diet and exercise. If someone close to you was diagnosed with lung cancer due to smoking you may say; “it is time. I want to live.” Other times the truth is within us. How important is it for us to change? The reality is most of us are very comfortable with our lives even if we are not that happy about our weight, our job or our finances. Comfort is one of the things that keeps us stuck.
This is why it is can be so frustrating for us when we want to change but we can’t seem to change those old habits. At some point some of us will say, “Enough is enough” and make the decision to do whatever is necessary to achieve our goals. Some things just take time and a whole lot of trust. It is also about what is important in our lives, what we value and find worth in. Not everyone feels good about themselves thus to take care of ourselves wouldn’t make sense.
The way we achieve goals, desires or wants this year is to really think about it in terms of relevance and importance to us. We would start with prioritizing what we want to do this year and then write a plan of how we will achieve this want or goal. When writing a plan, it is important to be as specific as possible about what steps are necessary. For instance, if you want to lose weight. Be specific about the amount of weight you want to lose. Identify what is realistic as far as the amount of time it will take. Your plan would include how many days a week you plan to work out and what type of workout you will do and for how long you will do it. Be specific as far as the first 30 days and then 60 days etc.…. The reality is the longer you are working out you will more than likely be increasing the amount of time and possible days for the workout to achieve your weight loss.
The goal would state I want to lose 30 lbs. in six months. I will work out 2-3 days per week for a minimum of 30 minutes each time. My workout will include aerobics, walking or running for the first 30 days. Every 30 days I will increase the amount of days to achieve 5 days by the six month with 45 minutes’ workouts each time. The most important thing in working towards goals is to be patient and realistic about your them. As much as you may not want to hear this: things take time. It will be worth the wait if you keep things simple and trust that you are capable of changing and that you are worth it. Believe in yourself and your ability to change. This can be the year that you say “I did it!!”

Susan V. Brewer

Susan V. Brewer is a Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist in the Upper Bucks County Area.  She graduated in 1987 from Kutztown University with a BS in Criminal Justice and Sociology. She became a Certified Life & Career Coach in June of 2006 and a Certified Relationship Coach in December of 2016. She specializes in adoption, codependency, relationship issues, substance abuse, self-esteem and life transitions. Her belief is “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

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