Posted by Susan V. Brewer in Balance, Coping Skills, Feelings, Goal-Setting, Self-Care, Spirituality 20 Dec 2015

Tis’ the season to be holly and jolly or is it jolly and holly?? Time to sing the holiday carols that most of love and some of us despise this time of year. I happen to love this time of year with all the lights and the smell of Xmas trees and all the decorations on the store fronts and inside all of the stores. If you are fortunate enough there may be a shop that has homemade sugar cookies all decorated for the holidays. This time of year can bring out the best and unfortunately the worst in us. My hope is that is more of the “best”. Times can be difficult for some people and they may not be in the Christmas spirit and want to be nice. So we may need to stretch ourselves a little more and be extra extra nice in hopes that it may wear off on the bahumbugs!!! I am not saying that people don’t have a right to not like the holidays. We are all allowed to feel whatever it is that we feel. But if you like this time of year, than spread the joy by all means.
This time of year is a good time to remember those who have less than us, who may be poor and struggling due to their life circumstances, when a helping hand, some food, donation and gifts would make their holiday seem like it all makes sense. Sometimes we can forget that little things can make such a huge difference in their and our lives. Giving to others can be rewarding and healing; it is a way of connecting without having to have any expectations. I think all of us at times are guilty about our gift giving and how we have expectations about how others will be thankful and grateful for the time, thought and energy we put into the gift or gifts that we purchased for them. It can be hard to give without expecting or wanting anything in return.
So remember to give and love without conditions. Be as pure in spirit as you can be. Greet others with a smile when you are standing in a long line. Sing along to the Christmas songs. Throw some extra change in the local missions’ envelopes. Treat someone less fortunate to a hot meal. Buy a coffee for the next person behind you. Step outside of yourself and see all the good that there truly is in the world.
It can be intoxicating to be in the company of others who are pleasantly walking around shopping talking and laughing and buying gifts for others and singing a carol or two. It is even better when you just leisurely have conversations with complete strangers and find it relaxing and enjoyable. So if you love the holidays than by all means share your love and joy. Give, Give, Give because in the end you will feel nothing but LOVE, JOY and GRATITUDE and who doesn’t want to feel that!!! Happy Holidays!!

Susan V. Brewer

Susan V. Brewer is a Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist in the Upper Bucks County Area.  She graduated in 1987 from Kutztown University with a BS in Criminal Justice and Sociology. She became a Certified Life & Career Coach in June of 2006 and a Certified Relationship Coach in December of 2016. She specializes in adoption, codependency, relationship issues, substance abuse, self-esteem and life transitions. Her belief is “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

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