Keep it Simple

Keep it Simple

Posted by Susan V. Brewer in Balance, Coping Skills, Twelve Step Program 02 Jul 2012

How easy is it to keep things simple when your head is moving a hundred miles a minute? It is not, but it can be done. It is all about slowing down for a brief moment and writing down whatever it is that is in your head that is creating conflict for you. If you can’t do that than find someone you can talk to. If that doesn’t work talk out loud to yourself and ask yourself what it is that you are looking for at that moment to create simplicity not crisis. A lot of time we create crisis because it is all we know how to do and for some how to function. Yet it does not need to be this way. Simplify your life by putting things in perspective and figuring out if you need help to manage your crisis and if so make the plans necessary so that you can continue to address whatever else it is that needs attention and resolution. It helps to have a plan it does not necessarily have to be permanent but a tentative one will reduce some anxiety and stress.

So KEEP IT SIMPLE. Life is too short to be in a constant mind frenzy.

The question has risen what if someone else is interfering with your ability to keep things simple? Well you need to do your best to separate yourself from this person and/or situation emotionally first so that you can figure out what your role in it is. Sometimes all we can do is NOTHING because there are things that are out of our control. We can not control other people’s behaviors. All we can do is make sure that we have taken care of ourselves as best as we can and let it go. Trying to figure out why someone is doing what they are doing can make you “crazy”. All you can do is focus on you and trust that you are making the best decisions possible. People are going to do whatever it is that they want even if it complicates your life. It is not fair but it is life. So your only options are to know yourself, to understand the situation, to make appropriate decisions and to move forward. It is not easy to deal with other people who do not care how their behaviors affect us especially if it is to intentionally hurt or harm because of their own unresolved issues and baggage. We have no control over them only over us and how we respond to the situation. So do your best to Keep It Simple and to not complicate it by creating a crisis it will serve no purpose except to keep you unsettled and in crisis.

Susan V. Brewer

Susan V. Brewer is a Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist in the Upper Bucks County Area.  She graduated in 1987 from Kutztown University with a BS in Criminal Justice and Sociology. She became a Certified Life & Career Coach in June of 2006 and a Certified Relationship Coach in December of 2016. She specializes in adoption, codependency, relationship issues, substance abuse, self-esteem and life transitions. Her belief is “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

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