Life Isn’t Fair

Life Isn’t Fair

Posted by Susan V. Brewer in Balance, Coping Skills, Feelings 05 Feb 2012

Sometimes life seems wonderful and other times it seems so overwhelming and difficult. What I find helpful is to recognize that life is what it is at times and that you have to do the best that you can to deal with what life gives you even if it doesn’t make sense sometimes. The saying that “Life just isn’t Fair” certainly feels true at times. But what is life supposed to be all daisies and roses every day. Without the daily struggles and headaches and frustrations we would not grow and our life would not become what we make it. I do believe that things happen for a reason in our life and when we learn the lesson whatever the issue it will have less hold on us. So accept where you are at in your life and make changes when you can because Life usually unfolds as it should.

How many times have you found yourself or someone saying “Life Just Isn’t Fair”. Why is this happening to me? I am such a good person. I don’t deserve to be treated this way. Why can’t people be nicer? Why do I always have to pick up the slack for other people? Why can’t everyone just get along? How come he got the promotion and I didn’t? How come he can have all those nice things and I can’t? Why do I always have to struggle to get by? The list could go on and on and on………… The reality is Is that life sometimes isn’t fair. We need to do the best that we can and learn from every situation that is presenting itself to us and move on. Some things we do not have control over. If we choose to make a decision that serves us but may have another impact or reaction that we do not look at than we have no control over the outcome and how someone may respond to it. There are some people who are takers and do not care how they get what they want. Is that fair? Maybe not but it is reality. All you can do is to be true to who you are, ask for what you need, and do the best you can. It still may not unfold as you would like it to because you can not control how other people are going to respond or react to a situation no matter how good and kind you are. Do your best to put whatever it is that you think is unfair into perspective and do what you can to change it if you can and if not learn from it and let it go. We all need to have a vision and move toward that vision but sometimes life has others plans that we could not foresee. So be grateful for the things that you have in your life. There is always someone else whose life is filled with more struggles, hardships and unfairness than you could possibly imagine.

Susan V. Brewer

Susan V. Brewer is a Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist in the Upper Bucks County Area.  She graduated in 1987 from Kutztown University with a BS in Criminal Justice and Sociology. She became a Certified Life & Career Coach in June of 2006 and a Certified Relationship Coach in December of 2016. She specializes in adoption, codependency, relationship issues, substance abuse, self-esteem and life transitions. Her belief is “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

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