Living a Sober Life

Living a Sober Life

Posted by Susan V. Brewer in Alcohol and Drugs, Counseling, Recovery, Self-Care, Twelve Step Program 20 Feb 2013

Most recovering addicts will tell you that being sober can be a lot of work depending upon the given time or day or event in their lives. So many struggle with staying sober for one day because of their inner demons, unwillingness to change, severe depression, lack of acceptance of their disease, friends who want them using, financial difficulties, insecurities, excuses, “poor me attitude”, denial of their addiction, wanting to be normal, unhappiness in their marriage, disgust with themselves for their actions, unresolved childhood trauma…..The list can go on.

What I tell my clients who are suffering with an addiction is to take each day as it comes and only deal with the issues at head. Stay in today not tomorrow or yesterday. This can be a daunting task because most addicts have low frustration tolerance and are extremely impulsive and want to feel better now. In order to live a sober life there first needs to be a commitment to wanting to be sober, Second a willingness to change and Third an openness to hearing what others have to say about you and what you need to do in your life to BE SOBER. You are not alone in your quest for sobriety. Ask for help. Go to AA/NA meetings. Seek counseling. Be honest with yourself about your life and live a life that is filled with happiness peace and fulfillment.

What kind of a commitment does it take for someone to get SOBER from alcohol and CLEAN from drugs? This is a good question. It requires honesty, openness and a willingness to change. The H.O.W. principle comes from the AA program. Anyone who has ever tried to get clean and sober and failed knows that the level of their commitment often predicted the outcome of their sobriety. Commitment is not easy for the long term. One can make a daily commitment to not drink or use; however it becomes difficult as the weeks and months go along to be abstinent.

For most recovering addicts/alcoholics it is a life time commitment. Some get and will reach 10-25 years of sobriety without ever picking up a drink or drug. Others will struggle their whole life with one week, one month, six months, a year….. Sometimes it is not only about the commitment it is about life stressors, relationships, personality, dynamics and patterns. As long as there is a DESIRE to stop drinking or using than one can make a COMMITMENT to live a sober lifestyle ONE DAY AT A TIME….. This is what the Twelve Steps program teaches recovering persons. So it is important to not give up on yourself and to know that eventually you will get it as long as there is COMMITMENT, HONESTY, OPENNESS, WILLINGNESS AND DESIRE……

Susan V. Brewer

Susan V. Brewer is a Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist in the Upper Bucks County Area.  She graduated in 1987 from Kutztown University with a BS in Criminal Justice and Sociology. She became a Certified Life & Career Coach in June of 2006 and a Certified Relationship Coach in December of 2016. She specializes in adoption, codependency, relationship issues, substance abuse, self-esteem and life transitions. Her belief is “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

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