“Living your Life”


“Living your Life”

Posted by Susan V. Brewer in Balance, Codependency, Coping Skills, Family Issues, Fear, Feelings, Goal-Setting, Gratitude, Relationships, Self-Care 23 Apr 2018

Sometimes life can feel so overwhelming and frustrating that it takes every bit of energy we have to get up in the morning, go to work, do errands, or whatever…. We start to think how did I get here with this mental attitude. How can I even possibly change how I am thinking in order to feel better? It is about living your life. It is about getting out to your comfort zone and doing the things that make you happy. It is about getting out of your same old routine and adding some fun in your day. Changing it up will greatly benefit your attitude and help you feel as though your life has meaning and purpose.

All of us struggle sometimes with life feeling like it is too much especially when it comes to all of our responsibilities to ourselves and others. We can’t even imagine taking a break just to take a break and breathe because it feels as though our life dictates something completely different. It seems as though we have to keep on going and going until the day is at end. We add on more things to the “to do” list and then next thing we know we find something else that needs to be done. And we are like “What just happened? I was trying to simplify my life by completing projects that need to be done but now I have just created more work and more feelings of being overwhelmed.”

So, this is where the term “work life balance” comes in. We need to define what it is that we truly want out of our life. Not what we think we “should” have or what others think or expect us to have, but what we want. This is where it can get tricky because I think most people on some level will compare themselves and their homes to others and start to think and say “We should have this or doing this”. I believe some of us feel that how we live our lives and how our homes look defines how others perceive us. I think a fair amount of us “should” ourselves a lot. I should have this, I should have done that, I should want more, I shouldn’t accept less….

We place all of these expectations and rules on ourselves because of how others may perceive us. Who cares what others think of us. At the end of the day the only person or persons that matter is you and your significant other and of course your children if you have them. So only you can make that decision about how to live your life. Unfortunately, we can complicate things but we don’t have too. All we have to do is look inside ourselves and we know what we want and certainly how we want to live our life. We just have to believe in it and trust that we know what is best for us.

So just for today take an honest look at how you are living your life and if you are not happy and want to change it then “Do it” there is nothing stopping you from having the life you want except for you. So, get out of your own way and Live your Life the way you were meant to!!

Susan V. Brewer

Susan V. Brewer is a Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist in the Upper Bucks County Area.  She graduated in 1987 from Kutztown University with a BS in Criminal Justice and Sociology. She became a Certified Life & Career Coach in June of 2006 and a Certified Relationship Coach in December of 2016. She specializes in adoption, codependency, relationship issues, substance abuse, self-esteem and life transitions. Her belief is “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

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