“Moving Forward”

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“Moving Forward”

Posted by Susan V. Brewer in Balance, Coaching, Coping Skills, Feelings, Goal-Setting, Self-Care 25 Oct 2015

In last months’ article about facing our fears, the concept of moving forward fits well. In order to embrace this beautiful Fall season, it is important for us to see what it is that is possibly holding us back from “facing our fears” and “moving forward”. As I have said before I truly believe that we as individuals are the “culprits” because of own self-doubts, fears and insecurities. Wouldn’t it be nice if we would wake up every day and say today is the day that I confront this person or go to the gym or ask for help? Or whatever it is that it a thorn in our side that immobilizes us and stops us dead in our tracks. What it comes down to is identifying our wants and needs and figuring out how to do that as comfortable as process. What a concept how to be comfortable with ourselves and in our own skin. All of these concepts are intertwined on some level thus tackling any problem or situation in a positive or negative way requires us to do some introspection.
That is why Fall is the perfect time of year for us to look deep within ourselves with some grace and compassion and take a leap of faith that this road is a better one than the one we have been on. The fork in the road is symbolic for many of us. Do I choose the same road that is comfortable and safe and what I know? Or do I choose a different road that is filled with possibilities and hopes and the unknown? We make these decisions based upon what is happening in our life, what we feel we can handle what we have been taught and above all right now do I want to do it differently? Do I want to embrace my fears, take a risk and move forward in my life being possibly uncomfortable?
Being uncomfortable is not always a bad thing; it can actually be quite empowering in the sense that we changed the rules and stepped out of our own comfort zone. This can be a liberating experience and define how the next few hours, days, weeks, months or years may be. How exciting? We sometimes never think that it could be so grand. We think of all the “what ifs” and “what will happen”. To stay in that thinking keeps us stuck and safe and comfortable. And while this does work and it makes perfect sense. My belief is that we always need to question, “Is this where I really want to be or do I want to add more value and purpose to my life?” I am always striving to be better and work very hard at being willing to push myself out of my own comfort zone because I feel it is necessary for me to be the best person I can be and to ultimately feel really good about myself.
Don’t get me wrong I do not always face my fears; however I am willing and often will face them in order for me to grow as a person regardless of the outcome. I understand that I am powerless over certain things and people in my life and I accept that in order for things to change I need to view my life differently and be willing to move forward in my life in order to have the happiness, peace and balance that I crave and seek on almost a daily basis. Take the opportunity to truly experience the Fall season by taking a long drive and seeing all the colors on the trees changing and how incredibly magnificent and beautiful it really is and all that it can offer you as you move towards a better you. My belief is that “all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

Susan V. Brewer

Susan V. Brewer is a Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist in the Upper Bucks County Area.  She graduated in 1987 from Kutztown University with a BS in Criminal Justice and Sociology. She became a Certified Life & Career Coach in June of 2006 and a Certified Relationship Coach in December of 2016. She specializes in adoption, codependency, relationship issues, substance abuse, self-esteem and life transitions. Her belief is “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

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