“I don’t believe in regrets… only lessons”
I think it’s really important to always search for the positive amongst negative situations. The same should go for our relationships. When you look back in your past do you say to yourself, “why was I friends with him?” “Why did I hangout with her?” There are relationships and choices in my past that I look at and I think for a split second how much I want to regret those decisions. But I truly believe that everything happens for a reason, and even when a person seems like a negative influence, I bet you learned something from that person.
I met my best friend through my ex boyfriend. She, too, is an ex girlfriend of his. The two of us met when my ex boyfriend started dating her. She and I became friends, and thankfully stayed friends despite their messy break up. My ex boyfriend tried to break our friendship and keep us from being friends, but everything happens for a reason. My ex boyfriend was not very nice to me, but I’m so grateful I kept in contact with him and we kept things civil because I would have never met my best friend, otherwise.
It can definitely be difficult to look at a negative situation to search for the positives. But not every relationship or situation is so hard to evaluate. I owe a lot to my parents who have taught me everything that I know. Although my parents can be overbearing and at time quite opinionated, I would not be who I am without them. My independence, moral character, compassion, and intuition definitely reflect my upbringing. We can all look at our relationships and find the positives, whether it’s easy, or a bit harder. I think there is always a positive lesson to come out of any relationship, decision, choice, or situation.