Pleasing Others

Pleasing Others

Posted by Susan V. Brewer in Balance, Codependency, Coping Skills, Feelings 20 Dec 2013

It can be so difficult if you are one of those people who like to please others. It can derive from a need to get approval from others that you are this wonderful person. It can be about not wanting conflict with others. Sometimes you can feel good about yourself because you made someone happy. It can be a learned behavior that you witnessed it growing up by another adult so you automatically have been conditioned to be a pleaser. The problem with being a pleaser is that you often neglect yourself and your needs and can become resentful when others do not react or respond the way you think they should when you have done a good deed for them. So the best thing you can do is Ask yourself why you are doing this pleasing behavior? What are you getting out of it? Is it worth it or is the relationship worth it? Depending upon your answer you will either feel good about it or victimized about your inability to set limits. Pleasing only has its benefits when it is pure of heart and true to who you are as a person.

Susan V. Brewer

Susan V. Brewer is a Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist in the Upper Bucks County Area.  She graduated in 1987 from Kutztown University with a BS in Criminal Justice and Sociology. She became a Certified Life & Career Coach in June of 2006 and a Certified Relationship Coach in December of 2016. She specializes in adoption, codependency, relationship issues, substance abuse, self-esteem and life transitions. Her belief is “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

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