Posted by Susan V. Brewer in Balance, Coping Skills, Counseling, Feelings, Self-Care 20 Mar 2013

I was reading this article on rejection and how most of us at one time or another in our lives have struggled with rejection. The word “rejection” alone makes you not even want to say it let alone deal with it. What I have learned in all my years as a therapist is that rejection is fear…. which can be immobilizing for some and motivating for others. We all fear rejection on some level. It is knowing when we need to overcome our fears of rejection. The clearer we are about who we are and what our issues are the more willing we are to address our fears of rejection. The best thing you can do is to list what your fears are about rejection as it relates to the issue you are avoiding and write down what is the worst thing that can happen and the best thing that can happen. There is no rejection when you take a risk. Risk is about growing and facing your fears. The reality is once we face our fears we often wished that we had done it sooner. So take a risk and enjoy your day.

What I liked about this article was what this author had to say:

“Redefine rejection as learning. We are often scared to speak as our true selves because we fear how people will respond. Your goal in speaking about yourself or your business is not to please everyone; it is to connect with the people who will benefit from using your product, service or relationship. Treat each opportunity to speak about your business or yourself as a way to discover new opportunities. If you find yourself keeping silent, ask yourself, “What’s the worst thing that could happen?” You’ll soon discover that what you feared usually isn’t as bad as you imagined.”

This is so true. So face your fears of rejection. You will feel better about yourself regardless of the outcome because you did not stay stuck and you created an opportunity for change. And change can be very good.

Susan V. Brewer

Susan V. Brewer is a Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist in the Upper Bucks County Area.  She graduated in 1987 from Kutztown University with a BS in Criminal Justice and Sociology. She became a Certified Life & Career Coach in June of 2006 and a Certified Relationship Coach in December of 2016. She specializes in adoption, codependency, relationship issues, substance abuse, self-esteem and life transitions. Her belief is “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

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