Self-defeating Thoughts

Self-defeating Thoughts

Posted by Susan V. Brewer in Balance, Coping Skills, Feelings, Goal-Setting, Self-Care 23 Jan 2012

Sometimes our perceptions of ourselves can get “out of balance”.  On days when we are feeling confident, we have strong beliefs about who we are, our work and our relationships with others.  We tend to not let the little things bother us.  However on those other days when we just don’t feel good about ourselves, it can make for a very long day.   Those are the days when calling a friend or colleague can really help.  Since they know you so well they can help you figure out why you are being so hard on yourself and possibly offer some solutions on what you can change.  But best of all is that they remind you just how wonderful you are!!!  When no one is available writing in a journal can be very helpful just getting out your thoughts and feelings.  Reading a daily meditation book allows you to not feel so all alone and validates that others have struggled with the same issues of self-doubt.    It is important to not allow yourself to stay in a thoughts of criticism and judgment.  Figure out what you can do to make yourself feel better.  You may have to take a walk at lunch if possible, go to the gym after work or just find a quiet place to just sit and breathe.  Know that all of us have times when we can be hyper critical of ourselves.  The key is to acknowledge our feelings and take responsibility for how we deal with them and than make a plan to improve our attitude.  It may feel like it takes a lot of energy to do it but once you start you will feel a whole lot better.  Trust that you change your thoughts!!

Susan V. Brewer

Susan V. Brewer is a Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist in the Upper Bucks County Area.  She graduated in 1987 from Kutztown University with a BS in Criminal Justice and Sociology. She became a Certified Life & Career Coach in June of 2006 and a Certified Relationship Coach in December of 2016. She specializes in adoption, codependency, relationship issues, substance abuse, self-esteem and life transitions. Her belief is “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

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