“The New YOU for 2019”
January 2019 is a New Year. It is when we start to think about our goals for the New Year. Some of us will look back on last year and think about what our goals were for 2018 and did we in fact achieve those goals. Hopefully for most of us we will have achieved some of them and at least contemplated making those other changes we wanted to make this past year. What matters for us this year is to set goals that are what we really want for ourselves and to look at what things in our life we want to change on any level. Most people look at making major changes in their life. For instance it can be to lose weight or to quit smoking. They are the two top goals for most people.
What I like to do when I begin the New Year is to look at all the things in my life that make up who I am. What I mean by this is to evaluate my social and family relationships, my emotional state, my physical well-being, my career path and my spiritual journey. I work from a book called the Language of Letting Go by Melodie Beattie. I have had this specific meditation book for over 20 years. Every year I will answer all the questions for the January 1 post and break down each question into a goal and how I will achieve that goal. What I like about these questions is that they are not the typical questions you may ask yourself about what tangible goal you want to work on for the year.
For instance one of the questions is What would you like to happen in your life this year with friends, family and work. Most of us would look at that question and say I don’t know or there is any real problem. But there doesn’t always have to be a problem. A goal can be about improving our relationships with family members. It can be about resolving conflict we have with a co-worker. It can be how I can spend more time with my friends. These goals can actually make us feel good and help us to resolve issues that may be deeply ingrained in who we are that we have taken for granted. These questions give us another way to look at what we want to be different for the New Year. It actually takes a lot of pressure off of us to have to do the big goals that maybe we have failed at every year. These goals can be simple and positive and easily attainable because they may be a one time thing that we have to do. It gives us more time to achieve more goals which always makes us feel better.
The nice things about goals is that they can provide direction and in the end validation for you. The point is to keep them simple and manageable for you. So be as consistent as possible with your goals and regardless of the outcome you will learn about yourself and be a SUCCESS!! Happy Goal Setting for 2019!!