“Trust & Hope”
Hope is defined as “to want something to happen and be true and think that it could happen and be true”. It is the feeling of wanting something to happen and thinking that it could happen. So when we talk about hope it is a belief or feeling that anything is possible. Sometimes we don’t even realize that we are knee deep in our own stuff that if we were feeling a little bit hopeful about the situation and our life in general our spirits would be lifted. Hope doesn’t necessarily change everything but it can help us feel less overwhelmed and capable of handling our feelings and problems better.
Some of the negative feelings that arise with the concept of hope and in last month’s article about trust are anxiety and worry. We can have a tendency to worry about what is going to happen when we have to make a decision or when we are in a situation that causes us much distress or discomfort. When we worry than normally we may experience anxiety which at times is a normal response when we are in the midst of a conflict or making a decision. The problem with anxiety is that it can cause us to panic and to doubt ourselves and our abilities to handle our feelings and our problems. We can get so caught up in it that the feelings of hope and trust that we were experiencing initially are now gone because we let worry and anxiety to take over us.
The trick is to acknowledge your feelings of worry and anxiety, like giving them a “voice” and than to balance them out with hope and trust. It is helpful to identify what are my worries? What it is about this situation that is creating anxiety for me? What can I and what can’t I control? What do I want the outcome to be? Than we can formulate a plan on to how to address the issue. Regardless of whatever situation you may be in you are going to experience some form of worry and anxiety especially if you are someone who worries what others think of you and/or you wanted to be liked by them. However if we stay true to ourselves and understand what our goal is than hope and trust will take over those feelings because ultimately we want to feel better about ourselves.
This is why counseling or being able to talk to someone who knows you can be really helpful. They can help you to clarify your thoughts and feelings and help you to understand as much of the whole picture as possible in order for us to relax and not create a crisis. Worrying does not help at all; it only intensifies the situation and creates self-doubt. That is why it is so important to believe in yourself, your journey, your feelings, your choices and your decisions. To have hope is to allow for freedom in your life. It can open up so many doors for you personally and professionally. I often say that we are the ones that get in our own way sometimes because of our lack of hope and trust in ourselves. All of us have the potential to be better than we are and to not have to be stricken with worry and anxiety about our lives. We are all capable of changing and being who we want to be so have hope and trust that you deserve everything good life has to offer.