“What’s Next?”

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“What’s Next?”

Posted by Susan V. Brewer in Codependency, Coping Skills, Family Issues, Feelings, Goal-Setting, Relationships, Self-Care, Spirituality 25 Oct 2016

I was sitting here thinking what am I going to write about this month? Sometimes it is very clear to me and others time I feel stuck. I am sure most of us can relate to that feeling of being “stuck” in our lives on many different levels. When I thought about it last month I wrote about regrets so the natural process of my thinking is “Now What?” If you thought about any regrets you have in your life and you have not taken any action to repair or change these thoughts than to me it is hmmmm what do I want to do about this if anything…. I believe that all of us have the best of intentions to make our lives better. It becomes a matter of “how much better”.
All of us are on our own journey with life and what we feel we may need to work on or not work on. We can come up with a hundred or more reasons or excuses as to why something is not happening in our lives. I do believe that some of us do have issues with procrastination and by nature we may just sabotage our personal growth. So with Fall upon us why not face your fears and resolve those things in your life that have been nagging at you. What I love about this time of year is that everything seems so possible. I think it has to do with the crisp clean air, the way the color of leaves start changing, the smell of pumpkin spice and it just feels like a time of renewal.
When I went for my run this morning I enjoyed how cool it was out to run rather than all of that warmth from the sun. I love summer don’t get me wrong but there is nothing like running or walking in this perfect Fall weather. I usually feel energized and empowered and want to accomplish everything I have on a couple of my to do lists. You know those lists one is for home and one is for work. Sometimes the list gets added to because while we are in the middle of completing one of our tasks another one pops in our head and we add it to the list. Well that is at least how it works for me. It is so nice to have the windows open in the house and all of that fresh air. It is just liberating and for me feels hopeful.
With hope we can change whatever it is in our life that is still lingering around that needs resolution. With resolution happiness and peace almost comes naturally. Because most of what we do in our life is a process whether it is conscious or unconscious thinking/behaving. You know those times when you ask yourself, “Why did I just do that?” when we feel we have not made an active conscious decision that is because our subconscious will take over for us because we have a greater need to either avoid or confront a situation. It may seem confusing but I believe it makes sense.
Since Fall is upon us, why not look at today as the day that you say, “I am going to deal with this issue that I have been putting off forever and trust that I will feel better thus move forward with my life.” “I am going to call that person in my life that I have missed and tell them.” “I am going to get a new job because I am so unhappy with my life.” There are so many missed opportunities for happiness because of our own fears, worries and insecurities. So when you think “What’s next??” you will have that to do list in front of you and those tangible things you want to get done won’t feel so daunting because you resolved those emotional ones which are the ones that keep us stuck.

Susan V. Brewer

Susan V. Brewer is a Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist in the Upper Bucks County Area.  She graduated in 1987 from Kutztown University with a BS in Criminal Justice and Sociology. She became a Certified Life & Career Coach in June of 2006 and a Certified Relationship Coach in December of 2016. She specializes in adoption, codependency, relationship issues, substance abuse, self-esteem and life transitions. Her belief is “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

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