“Why Me?”


“Why Me?”

Posted by Susan V. Brewer in Anxiety, Balance, Coaching, Codependency, Control, Coping Skills, Counseling, Fear, Feelings, Goal-Setting, Gratitude 27 Mar 2019

You may be wondering “Why Me?” All too often some of us can feel victimized by what is happening in our lives and don’t understand why certain things are happening. It is important to look at why me? It doesn’t always have to be negative. Sometimes the bad things that happen are opportunities for us. What I mean by this is that maybe we have been avoiding looking at things in our lives and something happens that rocks our world. Our feelings of devastation, overwhelming, despair and bewilderment make it feel like we can’t move forward.
But we can. It is about a concept of Trust. As painful as any news can be life is a process. As much as we want to understand why are these things happening to me, we need to find a way to accept that hopefully we will experience more joy than sorrow in our lives. However, if we don’t maybe there is a plan that we don’t know about yet. This is where the concept of believing in God, or a higher power or the universe will help you.
A fair amount of people have a very difficult time believing in God or any type of spirituality. So, when a significant loss or tragedy happens in their lives, they are almost paralyzed by this event. And for some they can become overwhelmed with feelings of depression and helplessness. They lack coping skills to deal with these immense and often unexpected feelings.
So, the best thing one can do is find support with others whether that is family, friends, co-workers or a professional counselor or support group. Whatever you do do your best to not isolate and commiserate in your sad feelings. It can be so traumatizing that you will find it very difficult to get out of these awful feelings and when good and joy shows up in your life you cannot even see it!!
All of us face hardships in our lives and some of us cope better than others. But it doesn’t mean that when we are feeling victimized by these life circumstances that we can’t rise above it it just may take a little longer than we would like.
Just don’t give up on yourself and your life. You are worthwhile, your life is worthwhile, you deserve to have happiness and joy in your life. Everyone has a story better or worse. Find hope and gratitude for the things that you do have in your life. Surround yourself with people who want you to be better. All of our decisions impact ourselves and others. Make choices that speak to who you truly are!!

Susan V. Brewer

Susan V. Brewer is a Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist in the Upper Bucks County Area.  She graduated in 1987 from Kutztown University with a BS in Criminal Justice and Sociology. She became a Certified Life & Career Coach in June of 2006 and a Certified Relationship Coach in December of 2016. She specializes in adoption, codependency, relationship issues, substance abuse, self-esteem and life transitions. Her belief is “that all persons are truly greater than they think they are.”

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